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Paradox of Full: When We Think We Are, We Aren’t


I recently read a blog that contained an excerpt of The Heidelberg Confession. I had to pause for reflection as I read:

“Q. What is your only comfort in life and in death?
A. That I am not my own, but belong – body and soul, in life and in death – to my faithful Saviour, Jesus Christ. He has fully paid for all my sins with his precious blood, and has set me free from the tyranny of the devil. He also watches over me in such a way that not a hair can fall from my head without the will of my Father in heaven; in fact, all things must work together for my salvation. Because I belong to him, Christ, by his Holy Spirit, assures me of eternal life and makes me wholeheartedly willing and ready from now on to live for him.”

What is my only comfort in life and in death? I can with all assurance say that I believe the answer above is my confession. But my life experience will show that I have not experienced the truth of those words. Not here, not now. I believe there is a future day when I will be with Christ and my fullness in Him will be realized. But can I experience that fullness now? Can you experience that fullness now? Perhaps. But our potential is blocked by the madness of sin in our lives. The sins that have been committed against us and the sins we have committed against ourselves and others. And these sins, at times, confuse the signals in our brains and cause us to feel empty when we really aren’t. I over-eat to compensate for my emptiness. While I have never been morbidly obese, the eating behavior is still present. It is hard-wired in my brain and tells me that eating is a pleasurable activity and I can feel full any time I want. Of course this is not true and many other people would attest to that, because we have to keep eating more and more. So, what is happening here is at the root of desire.

Every living thing on the planet has been given the gift of desire. Desires drive us toward fulfillment. We desire to be full or to be filled. We are motivated to seek fulfillment over and over. Why? Because we also experience emptiness. When we are empty we look for something to fill us again. We don’t like the feeling of emptiness, so we seek to be filled. This is good desire.

While our desires are common,( need for food, water, intimacy, etc) the expression of those desires (what we desire, where we desire, and with whom we desire) are as varied as each individual. Our past experiences, our culture and our families, in many ways, shape the expression of our desires. While the desires themselves have been declared by God to be “good,” sin and suffering has affected every part of our being as humans and that includes our desires.

The paradox is this: We attain to be filled here and now, and while we can have some fulfillment we can’t have it all. Everytime we engage in eating or sexual relations, sports, recreational activities, building our families, worshiping God (collectively or individually), we have to keep coming back to be filled and filled again. Because we get empty. We don’t like empty. And this is especially true of people who have been abused or are experiencing abuse of some kind.That is because their brain has lost the ability to recognize their own feeling of empty and full. So,some turn to sexual promiscuity, or they develop eating disorders, or eat more than their body can metabolize. They turn to drugs or alcohol to escape the unavoidable emptiness that is so much a part of their life.There is a heightened desire, almost a feeling of desperation to be filled all the time, but they cannot attain it.

Here is the solution: Since we can’t avoid emptiness on this side of heaven, we can choose to be grateful for the feeling of emptiness because it ultimately brings us to the only one who can fill us completely. He fills us with His Spirit for this life He has called us to. Everytime we feel empty we are reminded that we are totally dependent on God for our food, for our health and for our joy in living. Yes,on earth, we need to be filled over and over again. Because we belong to God and He has given every provision for us to come to Him for filling, we can know that in Heaven we will be filled with Himself and we will have no need for any other fulfillment. He is the Bread of Life, the Living Water and the Door by which we will enter into an eternity of riches that have been promised to anyone who is acquainted with physical and emotional hunger in this life. There will be no more cravings or hunger of any kind.

I want to leave my emptiness behind me. I want to be filled by the Spirit of the living God. I can give myself wholly to the Christ who emptied Himself so that I could receive His fullness. The Heidelberg confession lets us realize this dependence on the finished work of Christ, for our fulfillment now, and at the time of our death when we are finally emptied of this body that we carry on earth. Come with me on this journey, together we will discover the endless provisions of an Almighty God!

Incest and Moral Legislation


Every human being on the planet lives by a moral code; a legislation that is inherent and lives within each of us. That is why the sin of incest is morally abhorrent. This is true whether or not you choose to believe in a Creator, God, Universe, or some other self-identified deity. It really doesn’t matter, because it doesn’t change the fact that the code exists. It exists to protect us from others who choose wrong over right. It exists to empower us to make choices that are good and helpful instead of selfish and hurtful to others.

 But we live in a broken world and to some broken individuals, there is no feeling of shame, remorse or guilt when they engage in the sin of incest. They simply change the rules of the moral code. They don’t believe they need to live by them. I suspect that many who write on this blog have been victims of incest during their lifetime. Writing is an outlet for the pain and suffering they felt after a family member harmed them.

 My purpose of this post is to salute all those who have come through their nightmares and find themselves standing on the other side where there is a host of men, women and children who played the game as it was meant to be played until the rules were changed. Now is the time for you to talk about happened. There is hope and there is healing. Refuse to live in continued silence! We are the over-comers and THE RULES HAVE NOT CHANGED!

 Want in your eyes,

hurried breath.

I thought you were excited

about playing hide and seek.

 I’m running away,

when you claw at my dress.

I don’t remember

these are the rules.

 “New rules,” you say.

I’m suddenly aware

you are standing naked

very close to me.

 “I don’t want to play!”

Then you push me down.

You cover my eyes and scream,

“Open your mouth!”

 I am choking, choking, choking.

Tasting salty and warm, liquid

and slippery.

I vomit.

 “Clean it up before mom gets home!”

“I don’t feel good.”

“I said, clean it up!”

“Why did you do that?”

 New rules. Get used to it.